5 Ways to Start Working for Yourself

(Disclaimer: Harsh language in the content. Reader discrepancy is expected. But still, read it. Don’t be so conservative.)

The Importance of Work

You were born poor; this doesn’t mean you should die the same. But raising your standard will require work. Hell, lot of work my friend. But even if you were born rich, had a golden spoon, still one day that spoon is going to bend. You will need to maintain what you were bequeathed with. And maintenance requires work. Again, hard work. There is nothing in this world which is for free. Nothing will be in future. Work makes a life living. Coming top in exams require work. Getting that high paying job requires work. Building that body which everybody will have eyes on needs work. Losing that extra pounds need work. Becoming an entrepreneur and building your own empire needs work. Maintaining a relationship requires work. Being aware of your emotions and managing them requires work. To have to eat 3 times a day requires work. If you stop working, you will stop living one day. Avoid work and success will avoid you ultimately. Do moderate work, live a mediocre life. Do hard and smart work combined, get whatever you want. In the worst case, even if you get nothing, you will get a satisfaction of trying that hard.
So here are few kickstarts to start working for yourself.

Go NoFap for at least 30 Days

To start working you require energy and focus. Focus is the thing that keeps you in the race. Energy is needed to go against the odds and do something successful. And these two are sapped if you Fap regularly. I assume here that you are young and, in your twenties, or thirties may be. Because if you are not, you are either too young to understand this topic or too old to make any difference. And as any other youth, you are succumbing to urge of bodily pleasures.  You watch girls and cannot control yourself. You release the pressure and that gives you instant pleasure. But you regret this later, get depressed or at least you get demotivated to work further on towards your goals, if you have any. Because the urge of mating is so intense that there is no other goal in your life. And why will you have any other goal?  Why will you think to work hard ? Because you regularly get your dose of dopamine and prolactin.  Nothing remains in your life to try hard for. Ultimately, you get nothing from your life in return. So, refrain from Fapping, for at least a month. I am not challenging you for a 90-day NoFap. Because I know you are struggling with that level of will power. Take the baby steps to prevent relapsing. One day will come you will go NoFap for your entire life and will only seek for real sexual encounters. Get that energy, feel that testosterone like a man. Even if you are woman, feel that urge of sexual desire by stopping faps. When I say NoFap, it means NoPorn as well. Don’t be a super hero and try to play with the desire. You will never know when your hand slipped downwards when you were watching porn thinking that you will not fap. Refrain and starve yourself sexually. The things which you don’t get to have are exactly those things which you will value the most. Imagine meeting an opposite sex in a romantic environment after your months of fap starvation. It will be ride of 200 km per hour. If you got what I mean. 😉

Create that Setting

To remain focused and energised towards your goals requires an environment. If your environment sucks, you are stuck into the goal making and relapsing. You know all your bad habits that need to be kicked out of your life, but the environment will not let you do so. Hence, create a setting you desire. The Author of best-selling book: Atomic Habits, James Clear, clearly points out the importance of your environment in shaping your good habits and breaking bad ones. If you want to be like a certain group of people, the first thing you can start with is moving next to their home. Live with those type of people you want to become. Living in a certain setting is becoming like one. However, this will be real hard in practice. Because the people we admire and follow, are always out of our reach. We can never befriend them in person, let alone living with them. If this is the problem with you, then here is an advice. You have a mobile phone with internet and you have accounts on social media. Follow such people there and start seeing them more often than you see your real-life networks. Watch their every video on YouTube, admire them, love them. They are giving out such valuable gems for free. Pick them all. And as this post is about working for yourself, I cannot continue further without naming few people you should follow in this regard. I have linked their YouTube channels to simplify your life.

1. Shwetabh Gangwar: When it comes to the domain of working hard, this guy is the master. The more you hear him the more you will become rude towards yourself. Listen him to bring yourself to the right track.
2. Chetan Bhagat:  This guy has lived throughout experiences. And it will be a fool of yourself if you don’t learn from his experiences. He has many things to tell you to make your life worth working hard. 
3. Hamza Ahmed:  This guy has a bag full of Testosterone. Stop being nice and start emulating him.   Your life will turn upside down. 
4. Alpha M:  He is that fuc*ing bad ass that every man should become to shine as an Alpha Male.  He will teach you to stop being pu*sy and be a man. 

Back off from Social Media

I know this seems a conflict with the above, but read along and you will get to know what I mean. The birth of social media was with the intention of bringing people together to connect, share and socialize. But nobody realised when it surpassed the purpose and drifted away from the track. Now this social media is being used for luxury show offs, illogical rants, intentional defamations, softcore pornography and what not. Watching boys with beautiful girls dancing and romancing, influencers enjoying their luxurious lives, women going viral by just showing their bu*ts, all of these are doing nothing in bettering the viewer’s life. On a positive note, it can motivate you to work hard in life and become rich and famous like them. But the chances that you will get motivated is only 1 percent. 99 percent of the people watching it only do 2 things. They either waste their hours just watching videos or they get depressed by seeing other’s life on the very opposite end. You feel the drastic gap between their life and yours. Suddenly your life seems like a crap. You find it impossible to have such a life as them because you don’t know what their backgrounds are. You start falling into the darkness of depression and demotivation. And this saps your energy out from you disabling you to do hard work for yourself. So, back off from all your social media accounts today and start focusing on yourself. And even if you use it, only use it to follow the group of people you yourself aspire to become. Listen to them and do something in your life. Now let other people watch you and become envious.

Prioritise your Goals

It’s very easy these days to get wooed by the glamour of information. You take your mobile, scroll your YouTube feed and see video thumbnails of “The perfect exercise for your abs”, The best way to get your Ex back”, “How to nail that job interview”, Be a music composer in a week”, “Do this and become rich”, all stacked one after other. You are now intrigued and you watch all of them. As you watch, more such informative content pops in the suggestions. And you watch more. You start wishing to become lean as Rowan Row while watching his workout video. You then desire to become an entrepreneur as you watch Vivek Bindra. Then with the next video you wish to become an Alpha Male just like Aaron Marino. Then you aspire to become a standup comedian while watching a performance of Zakir Khan. Then you think to become….. Hey wait! You are drowing in the fantasy of goals. This will never lead you to anything. First prioritise the order of what you want to do. You are not Superman of Marvel and become all in one, realise this first. Don’t be a Jack of All and Master of None. Be a master in one stream, and only then success will come along. Be a Jack and nothing will happen. It’s indeed good to have multiple passions and goals. But then you don’t have eight legs and ten hands. You need to go step by step. Prioritise your goals in accordance with your existing knowledge about that goal, your emotional, physical and intellectual capacity to train yourself for that, and the short vs long term benefits after achieving that goal. Give a sequence to all your goals and appoint them a timeline of years. And then follow along.

Mind those Distractions

Getting a new car is easy than maintaining it. Making goals is easy than sticking to the journey. This world is full of distractions that are waiting for you. They don’t want you to reach to your destination. Every people on this earth want to climb up, not by their efforts, but by pulling you down. You made your goal and decided to make yourself stronger physically and emotionally. You start working out every week. You start learning a new skill. You make yourself busy day and night thinking about our ideal future. Days pass so do weeks. You are in middle to reach to your goal and then a Hot & Handsome guy joins your office. Let’s take this example from a female point of view. He is sweet, cute, sincere, sensible, intelligent, humble, witty, tall, hot and sexy all at once. You now forget your goal and start thinking about him. You never realise when your path took a turn and your goals got interchanged. Now your only goal becomes to pursue him and get him into your life. Your life starts feeling a desert without him. Soon, he senses your desperateness and flatters out. As he has now won the game, he takes you out, does the stuff and starts ignoring you from the very next day. He pushes away from you but now you start pulling him. You have now totally forgot what was your agenda and where are you now. This is the power of distraction. So, be careful, keep a close eye on this predator. A distraction is always disguised in Novelty, Beauty, Alcohol, Emotions, Success and Losses. Tame yourself to detect these distractions as soon as they enter your path and your goals will become your fate. Best of Luck !